Marriage

     I think overtime my opinion of what a marriage should be and what it is changes. I don't necessarily maintain the same definition year after year. Just luck with any relationship, marriage morphs into something more as it transforms. 

    So here's my current definition: marriage is a long-term relationship that if nurtured can grow and bloom, but if it is neglected in any shape or form it fails miserably.

    By no means do I have a perfect marriage. I love my spouse and try wholeheartedly to be the most supportive partner that I can possibly be. I fail and continue to learn from my faults. We take seven steps forward and three steps back all the time, but together we tackle new obstacles that come our way. I'm not sure if we will always be the accommodating, but I will do my best for as long as I can. 

Personal steps that I try to follow:

1. I gave him as much space as he needs or wants. We can always do everything together and I understand that. Sometimes he just needs to be with his guy friends to do "guy" things. I love to hunt, but I understand that he needs to do that with other men. We don't have to spend every second of every day together.  

2. When I see that he needs help, I step in and do my best to fulfill whatever needs that he has. Sometimes that may look like me being the go-between to grab tools as he is working on stuff. It can also mean that sometimes I wash his clothes or he washes mine.

3. We talk things out before making large purchases. I verbally weigh out the pros and cons before actively making a large purchase. 

4. We celebrate the small things. I try to really make a big deal out of any accomplishments that he achieves, even if it's a training session. 

5. I pull my own weight. The bills that are my responsibility... IS MY responsibility. That means I have to make sure I do that! I don't ask for help. 

6. I really try to find things interesting about his hobbies. This is really hard for me personally. There's not a lot of things that we both like that are the same.


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