Default Parent

     It has come to my attention that I'm a single married parent or otherwise known as the default parent. It's expected that I do everything and still work a full time job. It's expected that I provide 50% of the bill money. I'm so excited that school is starting back, so I can at least have the ride to work in silence. 

    This summer has been a tiring cycle of child care, college classes, work, and trying to keep my sanity. My husband only had to worry about work. While he is at work I'm at home doing a three in one job. Even when he is home I'm still having to do everything. I'm so tired. 

    Default parenting means that you're the one packing the bags, giving baths, potty training, and looking into every little detail. None of the other stuff gets done unless you do it. When things fall apart, you're the one who gets blamed. "Why don't you like to go out with me anymore." Because I'm the one who has do do everything. There is no break for me. I know I sound extremely petty, but I either need to be a full time stay at home mom who has a small farm or a working woman who gets a break. There is no in-between in today's society. 

    Even now, I cannot simply sit here and type this out without my toddler screaming at me. Even making a phone call is absolutely ridiculous, because my toddler will scream the entire time. Please look over the typos. I cannot even edit with her antics. The default parent is on 24/7 and never gets that must needed down time. 


PS: I need a change and a break soon.

#Onetiredparent

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