Online Registry's for Christmas Lists

     Oh this is going to stab a few people the wrong way, but we're all adults here. Feel free to comment and/or add to the discussion. My husband's family doesn't always seem to understand that we are living paycheck to paycheck and buying all these extra gifts is causing us to go into debt. I thought I was done shopping and felt that what I owed was manageable, but then I get texted a whole registry to purchase from. Everything is over the top. Even asking for family to pay for their honeymoon excursions. 

    We didn't even have a wedding because I couldn't even afford to feed them all. I wouldn't have been able to even invite anyone for me. The audacity and entitlement to assume that I would spend that kind of money on a Christmas gift doesn't sit right with me. Oh, not to mention that online "look at me" party registry that was sent to me. The "look at me" is referring to a gender party that I didn't attend. A baby shower is all you need. 

    I had already spent a pretty penny on gifts. Spending more money on his family than on my own child. I bought for his nieces and nephews and will not attend Christmas on my side due to not being about to buy my OWN family gifts. My husband doesn't understand and I don't know how to really explain it. Gifts should be for children only. Once you're 18, get a JOB. If you want a fancy honeymoon or over the top stuff for a shower, you pay for it. I'm not being cheap. The expectations are just beyond me and what I can afford. I'm not maxing out a credit card. They can get what I've already purchased and deal with it. 


    I have missed Christmas with my family for three years. Next year, we will be doing this holiday with my family. He can go if he wants, but I'm not forking out money I do not have.  



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