Marriage

     Touchy subject, I know... 

    I think no marriage is perfect and everyone has their own struggles. The picture perfect happy couples on social media is all staged. The more you post happy pictures and quotes the more we all know something is missing. The couples that keep quiet and live their lives seem to be the happiest. You're going to argue and fuss along the way. It's how you handle and mend that bridge that matters. 

    I am NO life coach, so don't come at me!

    Marriage has been one of the toughest transitions for me personally. Having children was nothing compared to adding an additional adult to my life. You have to learn to share more than just love. I struggle with sharing space, routines, and time. Sometimes I just need my half of the closet to just be mine. Give me time to read without coming in and assuming I need adult social time. When my little one is napping that time is for me to catch up on chores and maybe a half of a chapter here and there. I struggle with the open bathroom stuff too. I really like being able to shower without someone coming in to grab something. There are two bathrooms for a reason. 

    Personal opinions about marriage really seem to range from one extreme to the other. It's okay to say sorry sometimes and admit you messed up. I don't like making mistakes so when agreeing to marry my husband I had whole lists of pros and cons. He didn't get an immediate answer. I was so used to doing everything on my own that the idea of adding someone else was somewhat scary. I had to think about my kids too. I was a foster parent at the time and taking on one more person was terrifying. He had to think about my kids and what that ment for him. He was taking on three additional children along with his son. 

    You have to work through things. Don't bottle it up and don't go to bed angry. Communication is key! 

    You might not agree, but I have a life outside of my home. I like to go have a girl's day with my best friend and her children every now and again. He likes to go on hunting trips so it evens out. I like to shop by myself and go places with just me and Taylor. He understands and doesn't put up too much of a fuss. 

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